I hate getting mad, I hate the fact that people are always scared of my tempers. That they always expect me to over-react, get violent, to hit back. Am not an angry person, I just hate being disappointed and people taking advantage of me; people who make me feel that am not worth it, that I don’t deserve better, that I cant achieve my goals. I hate myself more for being complacent to their theories, for giving up at any sign of difficulty, for not fighting for what I want, for being silent. No war in life can be won with my mouth shut. Even the greatest activities in the world had to air their view

According to Mel Robbins, your brain takes 5 seconds to convince itself that what you intend to do is not a good idea, I think my brain takes fewer seconds than that.

I want to be the best mother that I can be and I cant do that if I convince myself out of anything that should be working for me; if I keep letting people run my life, to shut me up whenever I want to speak.  Am grown a** woman and it’s about time I took charge of my life.


Help me understand!

I have been racking my head for months trying to find a reason that will come close to justifying their behavior but I have been unable to.

The reason; they have no other choice doesn’t seem to make sense.

Its has become a norm in  Nairobi to see women with infants on street corners asking for donations.
I hope I won’t sound judgemental, or harsh, and I know from experience every single mother passes through that stage where they feel desperate. There are bills that have to be paid, your baby has to eat, dress, you need to buy diapers ! So I understand the need to go out and earn that extra coin.

What am not clear about is why bring your kids with you. My parents always remind me that they raised us to be better than them, to surpass them.

So the fact that as a mother you will be very okey  bringing your infant child who is not more than a year old and sit in the cold Nairobi streets waiting for strangers to drop something in the donation cup is very disturbing.

Why does it seem okey to you , for your kids to accept that they only need hand-outs to make it to end months. Why don’t you want your child to grow up knowing that you can work for everything that you desire. It won’t be easy, but you can get to where you want to be.

What will happens when you are older and your daughter and granddaughter are seated in the same corner that you raised her ?

Will you be okey with that?

At this day and age there are so many things you can do that will still earn you that extra coin that you are looking for. Wash clothes, decide to be a part time DM and even if you will still decide to seat around the whole day and wait for hand-outs. Then don’t let you children know that you do it.

Let them grow up knowing that their mum worked her ass off to give them, the little that they have.

In return you will raise children who are hard working, who are determined to get everything that they need in life, and definitely make your life better.


Life Updates

Its been a while since i last posted,  Xander and i are both fine, We are almost 10 months, He love yogurt, and watching ChuChu TV. He a very happy child always smiling and laughing. he learnt how to start just the other day, so we are still not able to crawl or walk.

I found a wonderful Nanny, she is very good with Xander (I hope she will stay longer than the rest)

Am working hard,hustling harder and being the very best that i can be.  Trying to make ends meet and reduce on cost ( Am now a pro in making Multi-purpose liquid washing soap)

My learning how to take care of My natural hair, by the courtesy of Tricias Naturals, you should follow their page on Facebook.

Will try and be more keen on writing and posting articles on finance,Home decor, Diy, And money saving tips.

As Always




We have been trying out new things and so far he likes variety. change the contents of the meal  after every three days and he will  not be fussy about it.

on Sunday I made him Beet and carrot puree, and he really enjoyed it


  •  5 medium sized carrots.
  • a small piece of beet
  • some water (the water that has remained after boiling can be used when blending)
  • peel the carrots and beet. img_20160712_180500.jpg

dice them into pieces. img_20160712_180624.jpg

place them in a Sufuria and boil until the carrots are soft.

finally blend.






10 practical knowledge on weaning in Kenya.

very informative


Recommended age by most medical Institutions and in Kenya to start weaning is 6 months.

However, to live in the real world, many people start weaning as early as three months due to a myriad reasons like inadequate breast milk, cannot afford formula or child does not seem to get satisfied. These people should not be condemned at all but be encouraged to do it in a healthy step-by-step way.

This is an example of a practical way to wean a child. Please note that foods suggested are locally available and affordable foods. One can substitute with their locally available foods or culturally recommended food in the same food groups.

1) 1-3 months  

Try as much as possible to breastfeed exclusively.

If that is not possible, then buy infant formula up to 9 months to 1 year of age.food1

If cost is an issue, then discuss with your well…

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Baby Food: Carrot and Spinach Puree


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It’s very important to me that Xander grows up appreciating different and unique tastes. So yesterday I made him Carrot and Spinach puree, since he has always loved carrots he really enjoyed the meal.


  • 5 small carrots
  • 1 spinach leave


  • Peel and chop the carrots into small sizes

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  • Stem both the spinach and carrots ( separately)
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  • Place them in a blender and blend until fine.

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I was able to get Three portions for Xander to eat.




The Schick Razor Experience


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Hygiene is fundamental for every  woman, and we all go through different rituals to ensure that our armpits  are hairless and odourless and our legs smooth

I have tried my hand on a different types of Gillette and shaving creams but they didn’t make me feel comfortable i was either itchy and my pits started darkening ie until i finally bought Schick silk effect +.


It goes for around ksh 500 at Tuskys and comes with two razor refill

a suction shower holder

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a comfort strip to reduce on the irritation

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Every time I shave my skin is left feeling soft,  and it doesn’t give me any irritation, the price might be a little high compared to the other razors but its worth every penny plus you have two refills so they will last longer than the other razors

when the provided two razors refills are depleted, you can always  go back to the supermarket and  purchase the refills

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BTW it’s also a very unique bridal shower present




Baby food: Spinach puree

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My son has been eating since he was 2 months old, three months down the line he is teething, and has tried various fruits.

Since formula will only provide him, with the essentials i have been trying to find different foods that will give him the nutrients that he needs to be strong and healthy.

benefits of Spinach include and are not limited to

  • Rich in iron. Iron plays a central role in the function of red blood cells which help in transporting oxygen around the body.
  • Spinach is also an excellent source of vitamin K, vitamin A, vitamin C and folic acid as well as being a good source of manganese, magnesium, iron and vitamin B2.
  • Vitamin K is important for maintaining bone health and it is difficult to find vegetables richer in vitamin K than spinach.


  • Spinach ( 1 Leaf)
  • Paw paw ( 1/2 a small-sized paw paw)
  • 1 banana

produces 3 servings

  • Steam /boil the spinach for 3 mins,
  • After its cool. place it in the blender and add the paw paw and sliced banana
  • blend until its fine.


The extras can be stored in the freezer for use the following day. if not the extras can serve as a green smoothie.

I found this 6 small glass containers with rubber tops that are very good for storing, at tuskys beba beba.

Xander loves it, and has not reacted negatively to the food

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NB: Paw paw and bananas  impoves on the taste while also adding nutrients.



The first laugh

Every parent lives for the milestones that their child goes through. And yesterday evening i was able to experience one of the many milestones that my son will go through.

He laughed, with sound and it was amazing, and shocking at the same time. I had gotten used to him opening his mouth and no sound coming out.. I have never felt more proud.

Motherhood is not easy but when your child  grows up to do the little things that show he is okay and healthy you feel a sense of hope. Hope that you will have better days ahead.

You are more determined to do what it takes to ensure that he won’t luck anything in his entire life..

You are thankful to God for the time that he has already given both of you and you pray that  you will be able to live to see him married, successful with children..



Carrot Puree

Its always good to give your child a variety of foods when he is weaning his stomach is able to adapt well. so after two months of Xander feeding on paw-paw, banana and the occasional avocado. I figured it was about time is started diversifying.

After alot of goggling I came across  Carrot purées, it was easy to make and I also had some carrot that I hadn’t gotten around to using in my fridge.



1/2 a glass of water


Peel the carrots and dice them small sizes.

place them in a sufuria add the glass of water and let it boil until soft

Put the water plus  the carrots in a blender and blend into a puree.

Xander loves it.

I used four small carrot and the puree was enough for him to eat it twice. The remaining batch I placed it in a glass jar and placed it in the freezer