Breast Milk, Nan And Pawpaw

Am not sure if I have forgiven myself yet. There is nothing as painful as knowing that I can’t give my son  what he needs. We all know that its advisable to exclusively breastfeed your child for six months but not all women are able to get that far..
I started Xander on formula when he was 2 days old, since what little milk I have didn’t satisfy him.. When someone asks me why am not pumping and I tell them I dont have enough milk they  are harsh and look at me as if am a bad mother whose not giving her son what he needs….
I have tried everything from njahi, to oxtail soup,a herb called moringa, porridge, traditional vegetables. Tea ,cocoa, chocolate. Breast feeding every three hours and still nothing…
Am lucky since he has no allergy and has really grown, At two month I started him on pawpaw and he still responded well. Am still giving him pawpaw , formula and breast milk at night.

Its now almost four months and I am trying to introduce him to  other foods so that he can supplement on the nutrients that he needs. So this week it’s apple and carrot puree.

Post on how I made them and Xanders response on the food






I Love being a mother I cant find a better and fulfilling motivation in life than Xander.

  1. am grateful for having a healthy baby,
  2. I love it when he smiles and laughs at me
  3. Still working on finding an extra income
  4. My nanny Rose is the very best. she is really good with Xander and I feel lucky every day
  5. Finance wise I still haven’t started debt paying, and I used up the savings that I had saved and stopped using the 52 weeks challenge.
  6. make  a point to start working  on the 52 weeks challenge. its never to late
  7. keeping my fingers crossed for a new job
  8. Planning to write more blog posts. The sum up will be once every month, and once a week for other categories
  9.  eating healthy and exercising and reading
  10. go to church every Sunday

‘You are the sum total of everything you’ve ever seen, heard, eaten, smelled, been told, forgot – it’s all there. Everything influences each of us, and because of that I try to make sure that my experiences are positive.’ Maya Angelou

Three months down the line

Its three months since I delivered and I count every day as a blessing.  Am officially a mother of a handsome boy, he is so cute and looks nothing like the father.

Motherhood is amazing, I wake up being more and more motivated to work hard so that I can provide for him.

I am still doing some DIYs will post the paintings that I have done soon.

Savings, I have increased a little money wise am spending a little more every day and am still making my monthly charges.

Best idea ever, ask around where people do their shopping you might end up finding a very cheap place to do your shopping.

Food wise, am cooking Alot and really trying to eat healthy meals

Am a few sizes big so am working on a new comfortable wardrobe.

The year is still young and am kicking butt


Day 3:What you need to know about breastfeeding

Breastfeeding is very important for our kids. Hence its very important for us  to try and ensure we have sufficient milk for them. So below are some lesson I have learnt .
1.While still pregnant ensure that you massage your nipples while showering so that, they protrude and are not sunken. Sunken nipples are hard for the baby to suckle immediately after birth. My doctor told me that at 20 weeks you can  use a breast pump to pull the nipple or an even better method is to have your boyfriend or husband play with it.
2. After childbirth ensure that the baby tries to suckle. Everyone is different:  there are those who will be able to have milk immediately and there are those who will struggle for a while. Whichever the situation. Drink a lot of hot liquids (it aids in milk production), and they say milk production is in your head so ensure that psychologically and mentally you are prepared to breastfeed.
3. Since its your first time to breast feed you may have issues with cracked nipples so ensure the doctors show you the best posture, and breast feeding position to use. If you do get the cracked nipples dont stop breastfeeding the baby no matter how painful it is. If you stop breastfeeding the breast may have more un-reversible conditions.
As a method of treatment, wash your breast with warm water and apply some Vaseline after every feeding and you will be better in no time.
4. Nutrition is important.  Ensure that you eat a balanced diet. Am not sure if there is any correlation between food and milk, but eat as much as possible. Everyone is different there are those who claim that black beans(njahi) is very good with milk production, some say sugarcane, porridge, oxtail soup, Hot cocoa. Find what works for you and consume it in plenty.

There is nothing as bad a knowing that you dont have enough milk to satisfy your baby, you feel like you have already started failing as a mother. Everyday is a learning day, and you will rarely find a day that is similar to the other. Ensure that you eat what you have to, drink all the liquids you can get, and most important maintain a stress free mind, and milk production will increase.

Kindly share any other method that can be used to stimulate milk production.


Working Towards a Debt free life

My plans towards a Debt Free Life :Debt can be a really downer, at the end of the month the amount of money that goes to paying of your debt is more than your salary and you have to acquire more debt for you to survive the coming month.

Before I got employed I remember saying that I will NEVER take a loan and will NEVER get  into debt, but right now am drowning. The year has ended and I intend to reduce the amount of debt I have or at least pay off all of it by the end of the year 2016.

While looking for Methods that I can use to be debt free I have stumbled upon several on monitoring your spending and putting all the extra amount into an emergency fund and debt payment, some on snowballing your repayments i.e. paying off your least debt first while others on paying of the debts with highest interest rate first. All these methods have worked for different people, I just have to decide on one that will work for me.

Debt Categorisation: Categorise all your debts in a notebook; indicating the amount of debt that you have , the interest rate and the minimum repayment amount.

This will help in, the order of repayment your will choose i.e. (Snowball or High Interest rate)

Calculate the amount of money that you can spare every month; At first you may have very little to spare, but little is better than nothing.

Your calculations should include the amount of money you get, your monthly deduction (rent, food, transport) and also the minimum amount of money you need to repay.

After finalising the calculations the extra amount should go to debt repayment.

I will use the snowball Method and clear the least amount of debt first, then concentrate on the next loan on my list  while placing the minimum payments + the excess amount into clearing the specific debt

I hope I will be strong enough to stick to a budget, and put all the extra amount into my emergency fund and debt repayment, so that i can attain the Debt free life that I crave.

BTW: Just found out that other than the Ksh 5,000 penalty you get from HELB  for  lack of payment there is also an interest rate of 4%pm that is charged on the loan. Apparently I now owe Ksh 156,724 and not Ksh 108, 000 as I had calculated





Day 1: The Kenyan Traditional Flu medicine

We all have a flu/cold at least once or twice a year, in Kenya we have a traditional concoction that at times works better that medicine.

Its popularly known as Dawa ya Ndimu , its ingredients involve:-

  • Green Lemons,
  • Ginger,
  • Honey
  • Garlic
  • Water



  • Dice the lemon, ginger, and garlic,
  • Place the ingredients in a pan and a glass of cup or two of water, ( the ingredients should be fully submerged)
  • Turn on your stove and let it come to a boil, You should only turn of the Stove after the lemon peel are yellow in colour.
  • The Drink should be served hot with honey to taste.

I was raised, drinking the lemon medicine first before I sort any other Medical attention and so far i can  attest that it really works, a day or true of drinking the concoction and you are back to normal.

Try it out its not only Natural but its also healthy.

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To my Son


Its 11 days to the day that you expected to enter this world and am excited and honoured to have carried you in my womb for the last 38 weeks and 3 days; it has been a journey of enlightenment, and self discovery.

I know that life will not be easy, there will be days we will cry, others will laugh and others we will put on  a brave face and soldier on; but with every emotion that we face we shall always be a family and always be there for each other

Am working hard to ensure that you get a goods education, both at school and at home so that you can be a well rounded Gentleman

I hope you will play a sport,  and whatever sport you decide to play I will be your number one fan. If you will not be into sports I will support you in any other extra curricular activities that you will like.

It wont matter to me if you are tall or short for as long as by the end of the day you are a gentleman, respectful and kind.

I know that there will be a time that we will fight and we  wont be in terms, I hope that you will be able to understand that I Love you and I want you to only have the best and most of all that we can forgive each other and still be a family

When the time comes I hope you will be free enough to tell me, some of the things that disturb you and who you are dating. We will be free enough with each other for you to accept my advise when I tell you Safe sex is important.

When you meet your better Half, I hope she will love you for who you are not for what you have, the two of you will accept each other and complement each other. That you will be a wise enough to know that hitting a woman or abusing her doesn’t make you  a MAN, it just makes you weak.

When she gets pregnant, be with her every step of the way, let her know that you are there for her and the baby, because that is all we (women) really want.

I promise to raise you believing not only in God but also in yourself, I hope you will do the same for your Kids

I love you and will always be there for you.





We  are just coming to the end of the year and I couldn’t be happier,  I have 12 days left to my Estimated due date and every day I wake up being more anxious about the responsibilities that lie ahead of me and mostly the ‘labour process’ I have heard amazing to terrifying stories about child birth, keep hoping my child birth process will be amazing.

These days I cant help but think of all the financial mistakes that I  made this year and how am going to recover and raise my Baby well. So I have been looking into the different avenues that I can use to make a few extra bucks and save more. I have already started working on some, I intend to start others in January, and will definitely advise you on what works and fails so that you can be debt free and invest more.

Some of the ideas that I have started working on are

Online jobs.

There are a couple of jobs that you can find and do online from Spreadshirt for the designers, Etsy for the Do It Yourself enthusiasts (the websites promotes creativity and uniqueness) Olx when you are trying to De-clutter your home. Iwriter and Freelancer for writing jobs; and many other jobs that are perfectly curtailed to your  specific field.

Do It Yourself Projects,

I love DIY, and I do a couple of them monthly especially when it comes to home organisation or home décor. (One of my objectives in life is to do home décor and diy full-time) at the moment, am working on Door mat weaving.

Saving techniques

There are a lot of saving techniques out there, I came across the 52 weeks money challenge and so far i love it, my folks will start the challenge at the beginning of the year

Am also looking into saving plans that will help me reduce my monthly spending, and so far am looking into the 31 Days of living well and spending Zero. I intend to do it in February or March after I have calculated my monthly savings with the new changes in my life. Though I still intend to look into other ideas and try them out.

They say, its never to late to try, and the year might be ending, but its still not late for me to try and remedy the financial mistakes that I have made in 2015 and live a better 2016.

Wish me Luck






when you meet the guy

when you meet that guy, and he is your ideal and you can talk to him about everything, he laughs at your joke and listens when you talk the kind of guy who you wouldn’t find him looking at your boobs instead of your eyes, he is polite, kind and makes you laugh and you feel very comfortable being yourself around him.

it doesn’t matter if he is taking things too slow, for as long as by the end of the day the two of you have met and talked about everything and nothing in particular. he opens up about his life and mishaps.

He tells you he is engaged and will get married soon. and you are not really bother not because  you don’t think that the two of you will make it happen, but because you really want him to be happy and  would wish him all the best.

you may say I have a crush, but to me I have a friend, and am loving the feeling

As Always Lex


I have no idea what I will do to get myself out of this runt that am currently in, this year has also been the most challenging when it comes to finances, I keep getting myself in extreme debts and I have no way  of getting myself out of the situation. most of us blame it on the Economy, But is it really the economies fault that I purchase more stuff that I need, that I leave way-beyond my means that I  impulse buy, and especially on movies. how many times will I keep promising that I wont spend money on movies and I keep going back on my own word.

My current situation is dire,

I have Kes 50 shilling left in my account,

in debts I have a lot more,

  • Starting with a mshwari loan of Kes 6,450
  • A HELB loan of Kes 156,724
  • a Sacco loan of Kes 158,058
  • a Shamba loan of Kes 275,000
  • in total I need to have Kes 596,232

in the sum amount I haven’t added my credit card and the amount which I think should be around 20000 that I own

I still have to pay rent pay for transport to work and also food and basic needs.

I have no idea where am gong to get my money from , or how am going to clear my debts and live debt free, but I know that I have to do something quick since my baby is coming soon and with all the deductions that my account has is facing right now I will not be able to raise the baby and take care of the finances correctly.

Am going to do a lot of trial and errors and document which works and which doesn’t, plus any more debts that I came across

Wish me luck, 

As Always Lex